We all have weaknesses. Everyone. Some people lack the acuity to know what they are, but for those of you that write & read blogs, you’re probably self aware enough to understand what a weakness you have. A couple of mine are: focusing on one thing for a long time (ADD) and organization. They hurt me sometimes and they come in pairs.
Not looking for help on those atm, kthanks. Trying to make peace with my wiring.
Point is there are so many qualities that, done right and without a limit make someone really spectacular. Consider:
- Getting things done FAST.
- Being totally ACCURATE
- Being CHEAP
- Being Luxurious
- Being flexible.
- Being focused.
In many cases all desirable traits. But fast fights accurate. Cheap fights luxurious. Flexible and focused get into tussles. Yet we want–or managers want to have ALL those qualities. To be some sort of shamman of everything.
Now, I believe that people who get their biases are better. DiSC profiles and their ilk are useful for understanding–not overcoming–the way you’re wired. Being wired to do things a certain way isn’t bad. Having a skill or bias isn’t bad.
Trying to be more of something your not is a surefire path to insanity though. Trying to get someone that needs to (in their soul) do things 100% accurately to speed up some is dumb. Putting them in a position (editor) where accuracy is the only currency that is valued is a big damm win. Feeling bad about how your wired is dumb. Usually. You might be a sociopath and–of course–it’s 100% fine to feel bad about that. But, since you’re a sociopath it’s unlikely that you will.
I digress tonight.
The real thing is that we loathe most our weaknesses of character when they appear in others. We admire most the things we wish we had. But we gotta make peace with that and try to figure out what we do right & do it right & play up to that strength.
Be world class at what you’re wired for. Make big gains in what comes naturally, and get a bit better at what doesn’t. But don’t beat yourself up for being a pitbull or a golden retriever. They’re both useful dogs.