First, read/skim this: He wants to buy, she wants to wait.
One couple on the thread is in relationship counseling and one couple has even split — yes, divorced — over similar issues.
I’m gonna tell you all what Trent beats into your head every single day. Spending coin is for suckers. Do not let your posessions own you. Honor your marital vows.
Every time Heather and I have fought, it’s been about us being selfish; we don’t want to give up an idea or principle, or subbordinate it to (a) our values or (b) our marriage. Nothing should be so important that it causes us to…want to divorce, but I can see how it mental breakdowns…happen.
#1.) It happens when you elevate the importance of an event beyond where it should be. Happiness is not found “after” you graduate, or after you get the new BMW. It’s found in the present, in the little things and the journey. I’m not bashing decisions that people like www.cleverdude.com make regarding “stuff” but “stuff” is never a panacea.
#2.) It happens when you stop being grateful for what you have (entitlement mentality is an unbeatable bitch). Every time a gadget or object becomes important to me, I realize…I’m married to a great wife, I’ve still got a relationship with my parents, and I have a kid that EVERYONE says is more than a little special.
#3.) It happens when you are not in love with your goals. Stopping to think about what we’re really after, and what we’re doing is VITAL. If you want to get “stuff” for the purposes of keeping up, or because (hey, ipod) you feel like you need it…that stress can distort your mind, and make you elevate idiotic stuff to “panacea” status….
I guess I’ll say I’m thankful that my wifey is reasonable, kind, and sensible enough to come around eventually to subordinate most things to the betterment of our family.
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