If you’re having trouble hitting a goal, maybe it doesn’t matter that much to you.  Or maybe, you’re not being honest about the reason that you want it.  Or maybe, you’re too afraid to hit it.  In either case, I’m learning that it’s correctable.  At any given time, people have loads of goals.   You probably don’t focus on your goals as much as you should, and you probably have too many goals that burden you that matter too little.

If you’re not willing to be passionate about a goal, give it up.  You can’t win the game by going halfway to war.  You’re just going to frustrate yourself, and spend time doing things that don’t energize you, don’t make you better, and dissipate your energy.   WHEN you focus on something that doesn’t matter to you, you will be less likely get a decent outcome.   That means whatever energy you spent on it will be put into a sieve, and just burned up, and wasted.

Focus Only On What You’re Passionate About

Instead–focus on the few goals that you’re passionate about, for the real reasons.   I’m passionate about a few of things: 1. helping people be independent and free from big institution collectivism,  2. getting fit, 3. raising my kids to be kind, generous world beaters.   (Under these ideas are things that I gotta do, and sub goals and projects that I’m working on, but nothin’ really matters beyond this).   Nothing else should matter.   Any connection, flirtation, other part of that is probably a distraction.  Any other goal (earn $50,000 a month) might be nice, but it’s not a focal point unless it supports the other goals.

For a long time, I (and maybe you) have focused on all the ‘nice to have,’ BS goals, and I didn’t hit them with any regularity.  Partly because I wasn’t willing to be passionate about it.   The word passion’s origin from Late Lattin: physical suffering. Do you want your goal so bad that you’ll give up something for it?  That you’ll work your ass off?  That it’s more important than food, sex, sleep?   If not, then you probably don’t want it that badly.   If not, it’s not at the core of your being.  And if not, you gotta figure out how to connect with the stuff that really matters, nto the stuff you want to matter.

You can’t win by going half way to war.  You’ll lose, you’ll be beaten because you have to give up everything to the goal.   Having something that would be nice someday isn’t going to get you there.   Simplify, drop from your list some things that don’t matter, and focus harder on the few things that do matter.

Easier said than done, I know, but doing starts with saying, with writing, and it’s time for me to put that together.