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		<title>Lesson #1 from Joe Paterno: &#8220;Potential Ain&#8217;t Worth S#!t.&#8221;</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[Joe Paterno is credited with saying that about a linebacker he took a pass on&#8230;.according to legend, JoePA didn&#8217;t see him as a worker. And, apparently, JoePa was right because the dude had physical skills but became a Juco washout. (Note: I originally heard that story at one of the Mike Ferry events I attended, [...]]]></description>
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</p><p><a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Joe_Paterno">Joe Paterno</a> is credited with saying that about a linebacker he took a pass on&#8230;.according to legend, JoePA didn&#8217;t see him as a worker.   And, apparently, JoePa was right because the dude had physical skills but became a Juco washout.  (<em>Note: I originally heard that story at one of the <a href="http://www.mikeferry.com">Mike Ferry</a> events I attended, and it seems to fit with the rest of the stuff I learned about Joe.  However, Mike has a habit of&#8230;well, not telling the truth.</em>)</p>
<p>Joe&#8217;s right.  Potential Ain&#8217;t Worth Shit.</p>
<p>Let&#8217;s take another example.  Penny Hardaway and Michael Jordan were both supremely gifted athletes.   Both could do AMAZING things with the basketball.   Both had massive injuries&#8230; early in their career.   One was a coach killer, one was &#8220;That Rarest of All&#8211;the supremely talented over achiever.&#8221;  Michael outworked absolutely everyone around him on his way to 6 championships.  Penny blamed his coach,  his teammates (<a href="http://twitter.com/the_real_shaq">Shaq</a>&#8211;blaming the MDE)&#8230;and wound up pissing away more talent than 99.9997% of the people that compete in game of basketball.</p>
<p><strong>Potential Ain&#8217;t Worth Shit.</strong></p>
<p>I have always been&#8211;everywhere&#8211;earmarked for great things.  From kindergarten on, it&#8217;s been expected of me that I&#8217;d climb/rise. until now&#8211;I&#8217;ve never really been on the path to do much with my life.   Mostly because I&#8217;ve been committed to being uncommitted.   I&#8217;ve fed my ego with the idea that if it&#8217;s not this&#8230;it&#8217;d be something else that I could do.</p>
<p>When I was a Realtor, I was &#8220;too good&#8221; to be a Realtor.  I was not one of them.  I was above them, and I won awards, but it was an easy job &#8220;a monkey could do.&#8221;  Yes, I had a built in excuse not to <strong>sell out for my job. </strong>I was in the top 5%, making an <strong>easy six figures</strong> every full year I was in it&#8211;but everyone was shocked that I didn&#8217;t get into that top 1% area (which makes fringe pro athlete dough), and further shocked when I limped out of the business, fatter and burnt out.</p>
<p>Now I<a href="http://www.columbusmortgagenews.com"> sell mortgages</a>, my job has been a &#8220;stepping stone&#8221; merely for me to coach, to train, to start my own company.  I never fully engaged myself in what I was doing&#8230;so I&#8217;ve had a built in out any time I wanted one.  I&#8217;m not just &#8220;some lame-o mortgage broker&#8230;&#8221;  I&#8217;m a future business owner, and why should I engage my considerable talents on this business?</p>
<p>When I was at GW, I was graduating in a year, regardless, so I never applied myself.</p>
<p>When I was at <a href="http://www.otterbein.edu">Otterbein</a> , I was getting ready to transfer to GW, so I didn&#8217;t have to work that hard.</p>
<p>When I was in the Army Reserve,  that wasn&#8217;t going to be my career.</p>
<p>Now that I&#8217;m fat, I comfort myself with the fact that I&#8217;ve been here before, taken the weight off before, and any time I <em>really want to</em>, things will be OK.</p>
<p>We all have built in excuses to fail, to screw up.  Our parents to and peers were let us off the hook.  In our culture, nothing is ever &#8220;our fault.&#8221;   Now, I&#8217;m 31, and I&#8217;ve never t hit on all cylinders for very long.  I&#8217;ve had myself  <em>committed to being uncommitted</em>.   That way, I never measure myself against anyone<strong>.</strong></p>
<p><strong>Most people are Just resting on Imaginary Laurels!</strong><br />
That&#8217;s all it is, man, and people do it all the time.  You have to earn the position you&#8217;re in day by day, moment by moment.  You&#8217;ve gotta engage yourself, to see how far you can go.  Accept the fact that you&#8217;re always gonna have people left that are luckier,  smarter, richer, more equipped than you.  Get over that&#8211;let your ego go, and then spend the time maimizing YOUR talent.</p>
<p><em>&#8220;And to whomsoever much is given, of him shall much be required&#8221; Luke 12:48</em></p>
<p>If you&#8217;re reading this, you&#8217;re in the &#8220;much is given category.&#8221;  You&#8217;ve got intellect, you understand a lot.  You&#8217;re going to either make ultimate use of your talents&#8230;or you&#8217;re going to waste them.  Your ego can be a bitch.  It&#8217;s easier&#8211;mentally&#8211;to be disengaged from your life, to wear the &#8220;gen-x&#8221; slacker/underachiever mantle.  It&#8217;s easier to scoff at people.</p>
<p>When I was a Realtor, I heard the most astonishing comment as I was separating myself from the people in the Bullpen by having results&#8230;&#8221;If all I did was sell houses all day, I&#8217;d have  4 listings, too.&#8221;  All that she did was order pizza, and that&#8217;s why she beat me to 250 pounds&#8230;</p>
<p>I&#8217;m not saying be a workaholic.  What I&#8217;m saying is that in your job, when you work 40 hours, put a passionate 40 hours in.  Be engaged in&#8211;and committed to&#8211;what you&#8217;re doing.   When you&#8217;re with your family, ENGAGE.   If you&#8217;re going to do something, do it balls out&#8230;to the best of your ability.</p>
<p><strong>Don&#8217;t Scoff, Don&#8217;t Pretend important things don&#8217;t matter.</strong></p>
<p>It&#8217;s the way of our world to scoff and sneer.  It&#8217;s WAY easier than it is to really get after it.   It&#8217;s way easier mentally to make excuses, but it&#8217;s never the right way to do things.</p>
<p>My life is my fault, and my creation.  I&#8217;ve been given a certain amount of ability, but why blame others for the things that are wrong?</p>
<p>It&#8217;s my fault that I&#8217;m fat.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s my fault I&#8217;ve never had a book published.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s my fault that I&#8217;m not a millionaire.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s my fault that I&#8217;ve never accumulated wealth (or given any money to any noble pursuits).</p>
<p>It&#8217;s also&#8230;</p>
<p>It&#8217;s my fault that I don&#8217;t live in a trailer park.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s my fault that I have the skills and ethos&#8230;needed to earn 6 figures instantly and in any city in America.</p>
<p>We have been given an awesome freedom to create an awesome life for ourselves.    To let our ego con us into thinking that we &#8220;could have what they have&#8221; if we don&#8217;t &#8220;do what they do,&#8221; is vain delusion.   It&#8217;s easier to scoff at the successes of others than it is to succeed yourself.   That&#8217;s ego, too.</p>
<p>SO&#8230;.</p>
<ol>
<li> What areas in your life do you let yourself off the hook in?</li>
<li>What mental crutches are holding you back?</li>
<li>What is your best?</li>
<li>How often do you get the adrenaline that comes from having done a GREAT job?</li>
<li>Are you working in your dream field?   Working towards working in your dream field?</li>
<li>Or working on excuses to let yourself off the hook?</li>
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